Many people dream of falling in love with someone they could spend the rest of their lives with. While it’s true that lots of couples achieve that goal, building and sustaining a long-term relationship can only happen with a stable foundation.
Long-term relationships seem perplexing to some folks, some even opt for getting crystals for love! However, once you understand the essential elements of a sustainable relationship, you’ll soon know how to forge a life-long partnership with your significant other.
You might think that “all you need is love,” as one famous song puts it. But you also need to consider the following eight things to make your long-term relationship a happy and healthy one:
Everyone is unique, and people have their individual tastes, likes and dislikes, political views, and sense of morality and ethics.
A mutual physical attraction is essential in a relationship, but to make it a sustainable long-term one, other compatibility factors come into play.
You and your partner don’t need to like all of the same things. However, it makes sense to have some mutual interests that you can enjoy as a couple and individually.
2. Open And Honest Communication
People in relationships should feel safe sharing their thoughts, feelings, and concerns with their partners. They want to do so without feeling judged and because they want to strengthen their bonds.
When you enter into a relationship with someone, and you hope it will turn into a long-term one, you must be open and honest with your partner. Otherwise, doubt and resentment can set in and potentially cause irreversible damage.
If you find it hard to be transparent with partners in any relationships you enter, it’s worth addressing the cause of that issue.
3. Long-Term Planning
You have dreams of ending up in a happy, long-term relationship with someone special. At some point in your union, you’d like to make things official by shopping for engagement rings and organizing a wedding together.
Long-term planning isn’t something you’d do when you first start dating. But it’s something both of you should consider as your relationship develops and it becomes clear that you’ve fallen deeply in love with each other.
4. Mutual Respect
When two people form a relationship, they must respect each other. For example, a partner should respect physical and emotional boundaries and know not to “cross the line” by being coercive or pressuring the other person into doing things they don’t want to do.
Respect is something you learn from a young age. However, not everyone has the same ideas about respect – especially in certain cultural backgrounds. That’s why it’s vital to have mutual respect to create a long-lasting and stable relationship.
It’s no secret that people thrive when they spend a lot of time in social settings. Unfortunately, socializing with others, either at work or elsewhere, could cause some people to feel like they can’t trust their partners outside of home.
The sad truth is that some folks have inherent trust issues, likely from previous relationships or childhood trauma, and they can negatively impact other relationships throughout their lives.
If that affects you, it’s worth speaking with a therapist to help you deal with those trust issues and lead a happier life.
6. Emotional Support
The real test of a long-term relationship is when you go through good and bad times together.
For example, if your partner receives devastating news about a recent health diagnosis, or they’ve learned about the death of a loved one, they will need your emotional support. Is that something you can offer your partner in their hour of need?
7. Spending Quality Time Together
Many couples lead busy lifestyles nowadays. Demanding work schedules, lifestyle pressures, and other external factors will impact how much quality time couples spend together.
The downside to spending little precious quality time with your partner is the feeling of detachment. You feel like your emotional and physical connection starts eroding, and it can often lead to arguments or worse.
That’s why you should allocate enough quality time to maintain a healthy work-life balance.
8. Healthy Conflict Resolution
Lastly, there will inevitably be times when you and your significant other disagree on some things. It’s nothing to worry about because you can’t both be expected to agree on everything!
If disagreements or conflicts end up heated, you should both know how to resolve any issues in a healthy and constructive way. Listen to each other’s views and concerns, and work together to reach a mutually agreeable conclusion.